When Life Betrays You: A Deep Dive into Broken Trust, Lost Faith, and the Loneliest Chapters of the Human Heart
By Ruby Dalvina
Dear beautiful souls,
If you’re reading this and your heart is heavy — like it’s carrying the weight of a hundred betrayals, broken promises, unanswered prayers, and sleepless nights — I want to say this: You are not alone, even when it feels like you absolutely are.
This blog is for you — the one who trusted too much, hoped too hard, believed in the goodness of people (especially your own blood), only to be met with silence, selfishness, or betrayal.
It’s for the one who once clung to God like breath, only to now ask, “Are You even there?”
It’s for those who stare at the ceiling at 3 AM, whispering, “What’s the purpose of all this?”
I’ve been there. I know that emotional numbness wrapped in a smile. I know the quiet agony of questioning whether you’ve wasted the most valuable years of your life loving the wrong people, defending the ungrateful, and giving yourself away like your heart was a clearance sale. Let’s talk.
When Life Knocks the Soul Out of You
There comes a chapter in every deeply feeling human’s story when life betrays you so profoundly, it almost feels personal — like the universe put you on mute while everyone else got a script.
You might say:
“My own family turned against me. Is blood even thicker than water?”
“I prayed, I believed… but nothing changed.”
“Why does my life feel like an unanswered question?”
“Did I waste the best years of my life waiting for people to change?”
And worst of all…
You start doubting yourself. Your decisions. Your instincts. Your identity.
That’s when the dangerous whispers creep in: “Maybe I deserved this.”
Let me stop you right there.
Pause. Breathe. This Isn’t Your Ending — It’s Your Awakening.
The pain you’re feeling isn’t proof that your life is broken. It’s proof that you’re awake in a world where numbness has become the norm.
Fact:
Many of the kindest people you’ll meet are also the ones who have been broken the hardest. They rebuilt themselves, silently, in the dark.
Life Lesson:
Just because people you loved couldn’t love you the way you needed, doesn’t mean you are unlovable. It just means they were unequipped. Stop blaming yourself for their emotional illiteracy.
Losing Faith Isn’t the End of Faith
You know what’s funny?
The only people who truly wrestle with God are the ones who once believed deeply.
If you’re doubting God’s existence or asking, “Where were You?” — you’re not weak. You’re real.
“Faith isn’t the absence of doubt. It’s the courage to ask questions while still hoping the silence means something.”
— Ruby Dalvina
Sometimes God doesn’t show up in thunder. Sometimes He shows up in a stranger’s kindness, a late-night song that hits differently, or a blog post that reads your mind (hey there 😉).
Humour Break: Because Crying Without Laughing is Just Bad Therapy
Can we talk about how life sometimes feels like a group project where you’re doing all the emotional labor while others are out partying with zero guilt?
Or how your family expects you to be the therapist, the wallet, the problem solver, and the forgiving one — all while gaslighting you with, “But we’re family”?
Yeah.
Add that to your resume under: Emotional Acrobat & Spiritual Survivor.
How to Survive When Everything Feels Broken
Here are a few humble, hard-earned suggestions:
1.Write Your Truth
When your mind spirals, take a pen and bleed on the page. Let the ink say what your mouth cannot.
2. Seek Your Tribe
Family isn’t always blood. Sometimes your soul siblings come disguised as coworkers, strangers, or that random person at a coffee shop who smiled like they knew your pain.
“Find the ones who don’t question your silence — they sit with you inside it.”
— Ruby Dalvina
3.Laugh Often, Even If It Feels Wrong
Dark humor is the flashlight of the brokenhearted. Use it. Nothing heals like a brutally honest joke mid-breakdown.
4.Reconnect With Humanity, One Person at a Time
The world is cruel, yes. But it’s also full of quiet saints. Talk to someone lonely. Compliment a stranger. Small acts of kindness make the soul feel useful again.
5.Redefine Your Purpose
Maybe your old dreams died. Maybe people you built your life around aren’t who you thought they were.
Start again. Not from scratch, but from experience.
“You didn’t lose years. You gained wisdom. The pain wasn’t wasted — it built the version of you that no longer begs to be seen.”
— Ruby Dalvina
A Few Honest Truths to Hold Onto
You are not broken. You are bruised, not buried.
You are not late. You are alive. That’s enough for a restart.
You’re not weak for questioning everything. Only fools never question their path.
What Now?
If you’ve read this far, let me say this with love:
You matter.
Your life isn’t a mistake. The years you “lost” weren’t lost — they were training.
For what?
For the version of you that doesn’t settle, doesn’t break at betrayal, and doesn’t stay silent in the face of spiritual confusion.
Final Word From My Heart to Yours
I don’t know your full story. But I know the ache of feeling like life cheated you. I know what it’s like to love God and still feel abandoned. To serve people who wouldn’t cross the street for you. To smile while drowning.
But I also know this:
You’re still here.
And as long as you are — the page hasn’t ended.
Let this be the beginning of you — not the person everyone expected, but the person you were born to become.
“Maybe your purpose isn’t something you find. Maybe it’s something you become — one painful, courageous decision at a time.”
— Ruby Dalvina
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